Traumatized veterans returning from our wars in Iraq and Afghanistan are often diagnosed as suffering from a psychological disorder and prescribed a regimen of psychotherapy and psychiatric drugs. But why, asks the author, a psychologist in this book, is it a mental illness to be devastated by war? What is a mentally healthy response to death, destruction, and moral horror? In this book the author argues that the standard treatment of therapy and drugs is often actually harmful. It adds to veterans' burdens by making them believe wrongly that they should have "gotten over it"; it isolates them behind the closed doors of the therapist's office; and it makes them rely on often harmful drugs. The numbers of traumatized veterans from past and present wars who continue to suffer demonstrate the ineffectiveness of this approach. Sending anguished veterans off to talk to therapists, the author writes, conveys the message that the rest of us don't want to listen, or that we don't feel qualified to listen. As a result, the truth about war is kept under wraps. Most of us remain ignorant about what war is really like, and continue to allow our governments to go to war without much protest. Here the author proposes an alternative: that we welcome veterans back into our communities and listen to their stories, one-on-one; and she provides guidelines for conducting these conversations. This would begin a long overdue national discussion about the realities of war, and it would start the healing process for our returning veterans. -- From book jacket.