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001 2013037587
003 DLC
005 20151029081129.0
008 130920s2014 nyua b 001 0 eng
010 $a 2013037587
020 $a9781462502431 (pbk.)
020 $a9781462512317 (hardcover)
040 $aDLC$beng$cDLC$erda$dDLC
042 $apcc
050 00 $aHQ801$b.C4867 2014
082 00 $a306.7$223
084 $aPSY041000$aMED102000$aFAM030000$aPSY036000$2bisacsh
100 1 $aChristensen, Andrew.
245 10 $aReconcilable differences :$brebuild your relationship by rediscovering the partner you love--without losing yourself /$cAndrew Christensen, Brian D. Doss, and Neil S. Jacobson.
250 $aSecond edition
264 1 $aNew York :$bThe Guilford Press,$c[2014]
300 $axviii, 348 pages :$billustrations ;$c24 cm.
336 $atext$2rdacontent
337 $aunmediated$2rdamedia
338 $avolume$2rdacarrier
520 $a""If only he could see things from my point of view." "Why does she have to act that way?" No matter how much two people love each other, their differences will eventually cause conflict. This popular, science-based guide offers powerful solutions for couples frustrated by continual attempts to make each other change. True acceptance of one another may seem difficult to accomplish, but the clear-cut steps in this book can make it a reality. Aided by thought-provoking exercises and vivid stories, readers learn why they keep having the same fights again and again; how to keep small incompatibilities from causing big problems; what communication strategies really work to resolve conflicts; and how to problem-solve and make positive changes--together. Updated throughout with new research, practical tools, and examples, the second edition features a new chapter on mindfulness"--$cProvided by publisher.
504 $aIncludes bibliographical references (p. 333-336) and index.
505 8 $aMachine generated contents note: I. The Conflicting Sides of Conflict -- 1. Three Sides to Every Story -- 2. "You're Wrong!": Relationship Problems as Faults -- II. A DEEP Understanding of Conflict: The Third Side of the Story -- 3. "How Can You Be That Way?": Relationship Problems as Differences -- 4. "You Know How to Hurt Me": Relationship Problems as Emotional Sensitivities -- 5. "Can't You See I'm Stressed Out?": Relationship Problems as External Circumstances -- 6. A Cure Worse Than the Disease: Relationship Problems as Patterns of Communication -- III. From Argument to Acceptance -- 7. The Delicate Balance: Acceptance and Change -- 8. A Story of Our Own: Acceptance through Understanding -- 9. Walking in Your Partner's Shoes: Acceptance through Compassion -- 10. Getting Some Perspective on the Conflict: Acceptance through Tolerant Distance -- IV. Deliberate Change through Acceptance -- 11. The Dilemmas of Deliberate Change -- 12. Deliberate Change through Mindfulness: Custom-Fitting Change to Suit Your Relationship -- 13. Deliberate Change through Communication: Taking Good Advice about Talking and Listening with a Mindful Grain of Salt -- 14. The Silver Bullet of Deliberate Change: Taking Charge of Change Even When Things Go Bad -- V. When Acceptance Is Not Enough -- 15. "Don't Do That to Me!": Violence, Verbal Abuse, and Infidelity -- 16. Calling In the Professionals: Couple and Individual Therapy -- Resources -- Bibliography.
650 0 $aCouples.
650 0 $aMan-woman relationships.
650 0 $aInterpersonal communication.
650 0 $aInterpersonal relations.
650 0 $aConflict management.
650 7 $aPSYCHOLOGY / Psychotherapy / Couples & Family.$2bisacsh
650 7 $aMEDICAL / Mental Health.$2bisacsh
650 7 $aFAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Marriage.$2bisacsh
650 7 $aPSYCHOLOGY / Mental Health.$2bisacsh
700 1 $aDoss, Brian David,$d1975-
700 1 $aJacobson, Neil S.,$d1949-