The definitive guide to coping with an affair, from the relationship e xperts.Exploring why trust is so important to a relationship, After the Affai r takes a frank look at the reasons why people have affairs and the de vastating effects they may have upon the person who has been betrayed, whose first response is likely to be: Why me? After the Affair helps couples understand their feelings and explains: —Why affairs happen, including common triggers: money problems, child ren, dishonesty, etc. —Why some people ride out life's stresses while others cannot —The different types of affairs possible —How to recover from a betrayal —The pros and cons of leaving or staying in a relationship, with step s to take for reconciliation or parting as amicably as possible —How best to help your children cope —What the future may hold.